How to manage difficult behaviour in children

Am I a good parent? How can one define a good parent?

As a parent of two kids, I strive to bring them up to the best of my ability. I am sure each parent wants to do the same. I have realised the simplest way to get co-operative kids is being fair. Treat them as you would want them to treat you.

Go easy on yourself. It’s alright to make mistakes, it’s important to accept them and try another way. Every problem comes with a solution; the trick is to keep looking for it till you find it.

You think your child is too cheeky; perhaps he is just a good learner. Children are great observers, they watch and learn.

Every parent has his share of situations. How can you handle one?

First rule calm down, anger doesn’t help anyone, it just worsens the situation. Remember it’s not a battle of wits, it’s just your child’s way of saying he needs attention, give it to him. If you can’t and are busy take a moment to mention this to him. Give him a certain time when you can have a chat with him. Praise him for waiting even for a few minutes.

Humour is a good way to ease the tension of the moment .Don’t forget your child would not do anything to hurt you on purpose, his love is unconditional, just like you he needs affection and appreciation from time to time.

If misbehaviour occurs, act immediately, take your child aside, use eye contact and calmly tell him what you expect him to do. Avoid nagging or sarcasm, use simple, short sentences.

If he does not listen or tries to reason out his misbehaviour, find the cause, be fair, back up your instruction with quiet time. Move away from him, give him time to think, he should know it is quiet time and you’re done.

Review time is very important after he has calmed down. Accept reasonable suggestions, talk about consequences of his behaviour.

Remember changes can’t happen overnight. Love and patience will only help both parent and child to cope with difficult situations. Enjoy your moments with your child, you will never get them back, these moments will be anecdotes to share with your grandchildren.

All the best!